Learning from mistakes builds confidence,” he says. But this only happens when you, as a parent, treat mistakes as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Don’t be over-protective of your child. Allow them to mess up every now and then, and help them understand how they can better approach the task next time. Pickhardt says parents should see “uh-oh” moments as an opportunity to teach their kids not to fear failure.
Often in today’s society it is seen as ok to just give up but that is as far from the truth as you can get. Every time you decide to give up you reinforce that attitude in your mind. You are actually changing your mind.
Nobody has ever become successful by giving up
Think back to some of your successful moments in your life. How many of those did you have to put effort into to get to that stage of success and that great feeling that follows? I can almost guarantee that you can remember the work you put into it before hand, all the times that you didn’t get it right but kept going, in that state of mind where you know you can achieve if you just try harder or a little different next time. There is a next time if only you want it.
Failure is not the opposite of success, it is part of success
It’s not about whether you win or lose, succeed or fail. Many people unfortunately see the world as one way or the other but many things are a lot more complex than that. If you don’t succeed on the first attempt do you really think that’s the end? How many times do you think people don’t quite reach their goal on first trying? Well the answer is actually almost everyone. The main difference though is PERSEVERANCE. That magic word again. The one word that can give you the belief that you know you can succeed if you just try and try again. Every person I have ever seen succeed in anything are the people that won’t let a failure stop them. They are the people that just try harder and better next time.